Ideas on How to Get Yourself a Boyfriend
It’s so easy to feel like a freak when you look around you and all the girls you know have a boyfriend and you don’t. This is especially true when you’re younger and may be still looking for your first true steady. All is not lost though, because most any girl that sets her mind to landing a boyfriend can do so, just follow these five surefire techniques on how to get a boyfriend.
It’s not always fun being lonely. Everyone in relationships just complains they miss the single dating life and every single dater just wants to be in a relationship. Like Chris Rock says, “Married and bored, or single and lonely. Ain’t no happiness nowhere.” But to get a boyfriend is no easy task these days. There’s a shortage of eligible bachelors. But there’s a way I’ve worked out to get a boyfriend and not have to act ditzy or slutty to do it. So here’s how to cast the net wide, and get a boyfriend in 3 steps.
Do you really want a boyfriend? You know you don’t need one. They’re a lot of work. They take up your valuable time and they’d rather play Tecmo than go out to dinner. You really still want one? Okay, so you’re starting to feel lonely. This seems like the perfect cure. Your friends are in relationships and you convince them night after night that you couldn’t be happier single.
They stay in and watch TV with their guy while you go out to bars and live the single life. What could be better? You’re perfectly happy, playing the field, and know that the right guy is sure to come along. Tonight. Well, maybe this weekend. Or, hopefully by the time you turn 40. You’ve heard all the reasons relationships suck, but at this point, you’re ready. As long as you’re going into it for the right reasons, here are some ideas.
1.) The first thing I’d suggest (Dr. Phil style) is reviewing successes and failures of previous relationships
Make a list of qualities you like and dislike. Do you only go for science nerds? Attractive jocks who like to party? Of course, their hobbies shouldn’t be the only defining factors on this list. Think about their long term goals. Do the guys you date tell you right off the bat that they’re not looking for marriage anytime soon? Do they tell you they’d never want kids? Or, they’re commitment phobic? Decide your boundaries. Once you’ve finished step number one, you’re ready for step number two.
2.) Get real about yourself
If you’re the type of girl that sits around all day dreaming of landing the hottest guys on the planet, then the odds of getting a real boyfriend are greatly reduced. Lower your expectations and start looking at the real world normal guys around you. Maybe you’ll start to notice that a lot of them aren’t so bad after all.
3.) Make yourself available
A lot of girls sit around in their bedrooms reading books and magazines or surfing the net, wondering why they don’t have a boyfriend, when it’s obvious the problem is that boys aren’t going to find you if you are hiding yourself away. If you want to get a boyfriend, get out of the house. Go to parties or join clubs. Visit your female friends; the odds are good that some will have brothers. In short, go to where the boys are.
Nothing holds back guys from talking to you or asking you out more than sulking, sullen or angry expressions on your face. Think about how you present yourself to the world and how you feel when you’re out in public. Do you stare at the ground when walking? Look away quickly if a guy looks at you? Do you glare at people? All these things keep guys away. If you want to attract guys, which is what leads to getting a boyfriend, learn to smile, and not just when a guy might be around.
Boys like attention. And nothing shows attention better than talking. But the key here is to talk about things they might find interesting, not just the things that are interesting to you. The best way to figure out what a particular boy finds interesting, is to ask him. Also, talking to boys shows confidence in what you have to say, and makes you seem more interesting as well; a sure bet to getting noticed, which is a great starting point for getting a boyfriend.
6.) Act interested
A lot of girls get caught up in the things going on in their lives; school, or their job, their friends and hobbies, etc. This is all well and good except when it causes a sort of myopic world view. If you focus exclusively on the things in the world that directly affect you, you tend to filter everything else out, which can make you seem like a boring person. Not something that attracts guys. So, try to open up your eyes and mind to other things going on in the world around you, and see if some of it doesn’t interest you. You’ll likely find yourself a happier and more interesting girl, and who wouldn’t want that?
7.) Blitz all avenues
Online profiles, friends, and going out. You’ll need to start a one month program of first setting up at least 2 online dating profiles, asking friends or Facebook for leads, and going out every night. To get a boyfriend, you have to be available, and show yourself to as many people as possible. It’s a lot of work, but treat it like a job. Sign up for match.com, jdate, or peruse social rings like myspace. There are many success stories! And don’t give up too soon, you never know if you’ll meet the right guy on the very next date.
8.) Focus on yourself
Often you’ll find what you’re looking for when you’re not looking. Focus on yourself – take up the piano, sign up for dance classes. See where this leads you, and what new people you’re meeting. You never know, you may hit it off with the IT guy at your Photoshop workshop. Happy Dating!