If you are single you may sometimes feel like finding the perfect man is a farfetched and distant dream. You may feel that it is impossible to attract a great guy and see no hope for your future. These feelings can cause more anxiety and fear when it comes to dating new people or social situations. By not being who you really are, it is hard to attract any man, much less the one. The truth is that with a little preparation you can attract your perfect man. Who knows, your next date could turn into your future husband!
Men are often stereotyped as wanting a girl with a voluptuous chest, flat stomach, and a fit physique. While there may be a level of truth in that stereotype, men often want so much more from a partner. Men can be sensitive and thoughtful with equally complex needs and desires. Here are 7 traits men really want in a partner:
Confidence is hot. Both men and women love it yet many prospective lovers shy away from being comfortable with themselves. Confidence shows that you are ok with yourself and capable of managing your own baggage. You’re able to step out to accomplish goals and be successful. What could be more attractive?
Always exude confidence when you are out on a date, in a social setting, or simply out of the house! Men are drawn to confident women. A confident woman shows to the world that she is happy with who she is, is a fun woman, enjoys her looks and will be enjoyable to be around. This makes men want to be around confident women. You might be surprised at the attention you will start receiving when you add a little bit of confidence to your demeanor.
A partner who has goals wants to be successful. They won’t be inclined to sit, and let the world pass by. Partners with goals will set out to achieve, and that drive can be a huge turn-on. Men like knowing that their partner wants something out of life, and is willing to work for it. This goal driven attitude often translates well into the relationship. Instead of running away from issues, the prospective partner sets goals in order to achieve happiness in the relationship. Proactive partners are worth keeping.
Nobody wants to date a person without any substance. The concept of a trophy partner is shallow, and tends to end in separation. A lover needs to be interesting enough to develop a true friendship and intimacy with otherwise the shallow attraction will run dry, and the relationship won’t last. Friendship aside, a partner with a quick wit is sexy. Having a person to banter with, and challenge you is a major perk, and the relationship rarely gets boring. You know that the partner is capable of holding their own.
Everyone hates a partner who is out of balance. That balance can relate to emotions, independence vs. dependence, or even work vs. play. The subject doesn’t really matter. it’s just that the balance is off, and unhealthy. It isn’t much fun dating somebody who doesn’t know how to unwind, or refuses to take their career seriously. Men want a partner who is strong enough to stand on their own, but also able to seek comfort and refuge from time to time. Guys don’t want to solve every issue that arises in their partner’s life, but men like to feel useful and like their help matters every so often. It makes the guy feel like he fixed something, and that’s a pretty great feeling.
You don’t have to be a twig or have a six pack by any means, but take care of yourself. This isn’t as shallow as it sounds. Humans are naturally attracted to partners they find healthy; that’s natural selection. You don’t have to hit the gym everyday or go on a crazy diet, but take the time to take care of yourself. Everybody wants their partner to be around for a long time, and the thought of losing somebody at 50 due to a health related ailment isn’t exactly a plus. Eat decently, be active, keep up that confidence, and you’ll have nothing to worry about.
Always pay attention to your appearance. Men like to see that a woman is taking care of herself and takes the time to dress nice and be presentable. Be careful that your clothing is not too revealing, however, you do not want to dress like your grandmother. Show class and good taste in how you dress and men will take notice.
Guys absolutely hate when their partners refuse to communicate. Men get stereotyped as poor communicators, but even girls are capable of bottling up what’s bothering them. Cut the passive aggressive “read my mind” crap, and just communicate what is bothering you. Most males would prefer blunt honesty over a brooding resentful partner. Communication is key to keeping a relationship healthy, and happy, so take a deep breath, open up, and say what’s on your mind.
Women like to know they’re loved. Men like to know they’re loved. Nobody likes ambiguity. Take the time to let your partner know that you care about them. This is so easy, but so many people mess it up. Give your partner an occasional hug, or simply hold their hand. You don’t have to say “I love you” to let your partner know that they have your heart. Show that you care, so that you can rest assured your partner knows that they have someone who isn’t falling out love, or thinking of walking out the front door. Security and stability is amazing in a relationship. It feels awesome. There is so much less “proving” that has to be done, and guys like having that stress off their shoulders.
8. Sense Of Humor
Always have a sense of humor. Everyone, men included, are attracted to people with great senses of humor. Sure, men like your feminine side, but they also love when you can take a joke in stride and give one right back to him. Being too serious and analytical about every comment he makes will make a man nervous to be around you sap all the fun out it. Men will steer clear of women who take themselves too seriously.
Everybody is, of course, different. These 7 points don’t cover every attractive trait, but they’re a great start. Some guys are total scum, but so are some ladies. There are no guarantees in life, but these 7 points will definitely set you down the right path for attracting somebody wonderful.