Women seem to always be very interested in how to go about getting a guy. There are so many articles online about this topic. Ironically enough however most of these articles online are written by women so I thought it may be helpful for all those women out there looking for love to have some advice from a guy himself on how to get a guy. The first myth of all these articles online on how to get a guy is that many of them say that you can get any guy you want if you follow their steps.
That should be a red flag about the reliability of the advice as this is totally not true. There is no 100% effective secret how to get a guy formula just the same as there is no secret how to get a woman formula. However if you take the time to read my advice on how to get a guy I guarantee you will at least increase your chances with men. So here’s some advice from a guy for women on the do’s and don’t of how to get a guy.
Ways to Get His Attention
When a certain guy catches your eye, you might not catch his, at least not right away. He might be a neighbor, someone from school, or a guy that works at a local store. It is possible to attract a certain guy without coming off like a stalker or appearing too forward. Consider the following ways to attract a certain guy. You just might end up with the man of your dreams.
Be Yourself No Matter What
The first thing you have to keep in mind is that you have to be yourself no matter what. If you have to change who you are and how you act to get a certain guy than that guy is not the right kind of guy for you. So don’t set your sights on one particular guy and try to do everything in a particular way in order to attract him. It’s not hard to tell when someone is acting a certain way with the sole intent of trying to get someone else to like them.
The single most attractive thing that you have to have when trying to attract a guy is self confidence. Confidence is sexy to put it bluntly. There are a variety of ways you can show that you are confident to a guy. One of the best ways to show that you are confident is to have good body posture. Guys will pick up on this instantly and have a better impression of you if you have great posture. Another way to display confidence is when you are talking to the guy.
Look your Best When
Personality is really more important than looks for a number of reasons, but when trying to attract a certain guy, make it a point to look your best. No matter how kind, funny, or intelligent someone is, appearance and attraction is very important. After all, when someone is not physically attracted in the least, a relationship is not likely to develop. Looks is a matter of personal preference, but attempting to look attractive can make a difference between being noticed and blending in with the crowd.
What to wear to attract a guy depends on what kind of guy you are trying to attract. You should dress in the cloths that make you the most confident, and that you feel comfortable with. Depending on the occasion it’s sometimes very alluring to wear color contact lenses as it really catches attention. Try not to go too overboard and stick with natural eye colors. This is a great attention getter for guys as the eyes are one of the first things we look at when we see a woman.
Say Hello in Passing and Be Sure to Smile
When trying to attract a certain guy, make eye contact and say hello in passing. Also, be sure to smile. Not only does this express friendliness when trying to attract a certain guy, but it also shows genuine interest. If the man is truly friendly he will respond, and in time this simple gesture will result in a conversation. If the attraction and interest is mutual, the conversation might result in the exchange of phone numbers, e-mail addresses, or even a first date.
Strike up a Conversation
It is old-fashioned to think that a girl should not begin a conversation with a guy she is interested in. Gone are the days of waiting for a guy to make the first move. Wait too long and someone else might catch his eye – and his heart. When trying to attract a certain guy, strike up a conversation. Chances are he would be flattered.
Do Not Make a Pest of Yourself
One of the biggest turnoffs to guys, or anyone for that matter, is someone that is way too forward or pesky. When trying to attract a certain guy, avoid making a pest of yourself. Do not always be the first one to say hello, and do not always start a conversation. This could be perceived as pathetic desperation. Give him a lot of space. If he truly likes you he will come around. Do not become a stalker in any sense of the word, and give Cupid room to shoot his magic arrow and hit his mark.
Once you succeed in attracting a guy or approaching a guy the best thing to do is create false time constraint. This is a great piece of advice for guys too who are trying to get to know women. You really don’t want to wear out your welcome especially when you first meet someone. The best way to get to know someone is on a first date and not in a crowded bar, club, or concert. It’s best to chat for about 10-15 min or so and then have an excuse to get out of the situation. Be sure to give the guy your number, if you are interested, and if he is genuinely interested he will give you call.
In conclusion the three key pieces of advice that will help you to get a guy are to display self confidence, have an open mind, and most importantly be yourself. By following this advice you will greatly improve your chances at finding a guy and finding love. Good luck!